Ten year old gets transition advice: “This is your identity and your life literally depends on this”

A ten year old boy (self-proclaimed of course, we have no way of knowing if that’s his actual age) posts to r/asktransgender:

Let’s cut straight to the point. I’m a 10 year old who is biologically male who has depression and has attempted suicide before. I don’t know if this is gender dysphoria but I always feel more comfortable doing things with females and I prefer the male body much over female, but I’d like to be socially accepted as a female. I always feel an urge to do the same thing the girls are doing when it’s just weird for me to do it. I’ve been highly attracted to a girl I know but only after I got to know her over about a year. When I see a picture of a trans male I think he looks attractive but I wouldn’t go out with out him until I got to know him, so does this make me bisexual or demisexual? Is this gender dysphoria? I feel really sad with my social position as a male and I get annoyed when I’m addressed as “man” or “dude.” Please help me. My sister would accept me, and my parents make it clear they care about me and don’t want anything to happen to me, but they aren’t super supportive of gay or trans rights. I don’t know what to do and I just don’t like how my life is turning out. Thanks guys, I know reddit is normally a supportive community so I hope I can get some help.

Clarification: I understand sexual orientation and gender identity are different and I need help for both.

What advice does he get?


Dysphoria can be everything from an annoyance to feeling suicidal, and transitioning is awesome!


“Hopefully getting diagnose [sic] with gender dysphoria”

If someone doesn’t agree with your self-diagnosis, shop around for another doctor!


Do you want to be a man or a woman, and mature into a lovely grandmother type person? These two alternatives are presented as equally realistic for a male human being.


Again the references to suicide with the “your life depends on this” line.

Again, there is no way of knowing whether this is an actual ten year old child, someone role-playing for unsavory reasons, or someone trolling. But if it really is a ten year old, these answers are pretty horrible. No one is asking him what he thinks “being accepted socially as a female” means or why he wants a female body. He’s seen mainly as just another potential transitioner.

8 thoughts on “Ten year old gets transition advice: “This is your identity and your life literally depends on this”

    • I’m not so sure. I talk with a lot of young people online and there are some that are extremely intelligent and well spoken. The way you can tell age is more about attitude, but hey you could be right. It could be a troll, someone posting on behalf of someone else, or a million other things.


      • I believe you, I don’t think you are lying. I just worry that older people are taking advantage of you to make themselves feel better. It is something that happens a lot online and its really hard to realize it until you’re older. Its the same way that you could probably get a kid that is a lot younger than you to do things just because you want them to. I wish you the best.


  1. I honestly cannot believe this is a ten year old talking.

    The ‘advice’ is appalling regardless, but no 10 year old communicates like this.


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