“What are your earliest memories of being transgender?” is the title of a thread on an online forum for transgender people. Let’s have a look at some of the replies:
There are many replies like this, focusing on grooming standards.
Other comments focus on gendered toys.
Other comments mention clothes.
Note how feeding a baby with a bottle and putting it to bed is a “mothering skill”, not a “fathering skill”. This commenter also mentions hair.
Crossing one’s legs is significant somehow.
Being “sensitive” means being a girl.
Liking a female cartoon character is felt to be a significant indicator of trans status for a boy.
Long hair is mentioned again.
And finally, one commenter straight up mentions not fitting into the expected role based on sex. And the solution is to change sex, not toss aside the roles.
“What were the dumbest, most obvious signs that you were trans that you still missed growing up?” is the title of another, similar post.
Hair and nails are mentioned again, and “girls series” of books.
Childhood pretend play is seen as significant, and again liking female cartoon characters is mentioned.
Hating sports, and again “girls books”.
Wanting to dress up as a female character for Halloween, because “really,what little boy wanrs to be the girl lion?”. How deeply misogynist is this statement? As if female characters are so beneath regular boys that wanting to dress up as one immediately robs you of membership in the “boy” category – that’s how little this person thinks of girls.
Another commenter feels that not liking sports means something significant.
A young male child who likes dancing, playing pretend and wants to learn a craft. Why should this be something abnormal?
This commenter has a long list of points, notable is wanting overalls with a truck pattern”, not wanting to be seen as a lesbian, and wanting short hair.
And finally another long list, with preferred hair length prominently featured as an important characteristic to mention when talking about being transgender.
Remember posts like these when transgender people claim that being trans is not about gender roles.