It’s time for yet another post full of examples of how trans people online use stereotypes as the basis of deciding to be trans. It’s interesting to see that even though proponents of gender identity publicly stress that gender identity has nothing to do with gender stereotypes, when trans people talk among themselves online, their narratives are usually absolutely steeped with the most egregious stereotypes. There is a huge mismatch between the official gender identity doctrine and what trans people tell themselves about their gender identities. Let’s have a look.
First, a person who, upon transitioning to female, finds themselves fitting “nice and snug in a submissive role”.
Then there is this post, entitled What moments make you look back and think ‘How the hell didn’t I realise I’m trans?, (archive link) which starts out like this:
Enjoying to play a female role must mean you’re transgender, boys can’t just like playing female characters!
If you hate stereotypes, you’re trans. Regular ol’ guys can’t hate stereotypes! They can’t enjoy playing with female relatives either.
Loving theater must mean you’re actually a girl.
Likewise, certain types of music is only allowed for girls to like.
Then there is a post entitled If I think about being a girl am I transgender? (archive link), in which a poster wants to know if thinking about being a girl means one is a girl. One commenter helpfully posts a list of “signs” of being trans:
Signs of transness includes a desire to wear women’s clothing and being a feminist.
What does being a man mean to you? What do you like about being a man? asks a poster in r/ftm (archive link)
Note first that this commenter doesn’t want to “act like a woman”. it is not explained what acting what a woman is, but it implies that there is some way that women acts, and that in order to avoid acting this way, you need to become a man. Choosing to not act this way is apparently not an option.
Finally, pay attention to the statement in this screenshot that the outside should “match” the inside. So there are apparently certain “insides” (personalities, presumably), that only match certain bodies. This is not a particularly progressive idea; the thought that only men or only women can have certain personality types is usually regarded as old-fashioned and regressive. But when trans people say it, nobody dares disagree apparently.