We have seen previously here on Transgender reality that there is a lot of pressure to start taking either hormone blockers or hormones for young people who think they might be transgender. Sometimes it’s supposed to be a sort of diagnostic tool, the thought being that if you feel better on the hormones of the opposite sex, that means you are transgender. Often, the decision to start blockers or hormones is presented as something you need to do as soon as possible, even if you aren’t sure if it’s the right thing, even if you’re just 13 years old and confused. Going through natural puberty is framed as “watching your body get ruined”.
Kids going to reddit and the many large transgender subreddits there get presented with this over and over again. You need to start hormones now or you will never pass! Testosterone is ruining your body! It doesn’t take much for them to internalize this and start obsessing, as we have seen previously.
“Anything I can do?” asks a 16 year old, and gets told by several commenters to “get HRT asap”:
“Can I pass?” asks another 16 year old, and again HRT comes up several times:
“What do I have to work with here?” asks a 14 year old. The second comment mentions hormones:
Other commenters talks about how it’s possible to get androgen blockers online:
Note that this kid has not even seen a therapist yet, and still people are egging him on to get hormones.
“Is transitioning early really worth it?” asks a 15 year old. The commenters start talking about HRT straight away:
“Stop the damage of testosterone on your body”:
Do it now do it now do it now, you’ll regret it if you don’t:
This 19 year old wonders if he could pass. This exchange is very typical:
In a nutshell, he’s told to get on HRT as soon as possible. He mentions feeling stressed out because he’s not even sure he wants to transition, but worries that “I don’t have enough time to decide”. So obviously, the answer is to “start an anti androgen”. His concerns about fertility are handwaved away. Can’t worry about fertility when the more important thing is to become as pretty as possible!
This premise is most often left unspoken, but if you pay attention it is very pervasive. Passing as a woman isn’t enough, the desire to be an attractive, beautiful, sexy woman is very deep among many would-be transitioners. When you take this into consideration, the preoccupation with getting people on hormones in their early teens makes more sense. Here are just a few examples of this sentiment:
This is a recipe for disaster. Young teens go into these communities with problems that are incredibly typical, like feelings of not fitting in with peers, or liking clothing or activities that are seen as being “for” the opposite sex. They are told that even questioning their gender means that they are trans, and to get on puberty blockers or hormones as soon as possible. Again and again, the idea that taking one’s life is a natural and inevitable consequence of not being able to get these medications is reinforced.
What happens next?
Yeah. That post was written by Josh “Leelah” Alcorn, who committed suicide later that year.